Why Manifestation Isn’t as Mysterious as the Internet Makes It
After years of deep healing, rebuilding myself from the ground up, and creating a life I once thought was only available to “other women”… I realised something that changed absolutely everything for me: Your brain, your identity, and your reality are all reprogrammable.
Not someday… not after you “heal a bit more”, and not when you finally feel confident enough. I mean right here, right fucking now.
And here’s the part most people never fully grasp: you are already programming yourself every single day. Through your thoughts, habits, self-talk, standards, the content you consume, the way you respond when life doesn’t go to plan.
So, whether you’re conscious of it or not, you are choosing an identity. And that identity is quietly (relentlessly) creating the life you’re living.
So the real question isn’t can you change your life. It’s if you’re already creating yourself daily… why not do it deliberately?
Identity Is the Missing Link in Manifestation
Let me clear something up. Manifestation isn’t magic. It’s not some woo-woo nonsense.
And it definitely isn’t about “thinking positive” while your nervous system is in full-blown survival mode.
Manifestation is simply the by-product of identity. Your identity is the internal operating system running the show.
And, it dictates:
what feels safe for you to want
what you believe you’re allowed to receive
what you tolerate
what you subconsciously sabotage
what you repeat, even when you swear you’re “done with that pattern”
Most manifestation teachings skip this part entirely. They tell you to visualise the outcome…
…but not to become the person who can actually hold it.
They focus on attracting more… …without questioning the identity that keeps snapping you back to familiar pain.
That’s why so many women follow the plan and “do everything right” and still feel stuck. It isn’t because they’re broken or not capable. It’s something far more simple: their identity hasn’t changed… and identity always wins.
Your Subconscious Is Running the Show (And I’m Sorry But It Doesn’t Give AF About Your Vision Board)
Here’s the truth that changed my relationships, finances, business and entire life: your subconscious mind doesn’t give a single fuck about what you want. All it cares about is what feels familiar and safe. In a way, it’s job is to keep you alive, even if it means sabotaging the way you want to live.
If your subconscious identity is wired for:
struggle
proving yourself
chaos
emotional survival
hustle as self-worth
Then no amount of affirmations will override that. You simply can not manifest a reality your nervous system doesn’t feel safe sustaining.
Subconscious reprogramming is all about slowly, consistently becoming someone new (you, but better) through:
different internal dialogue
different choices when discomfort arises
different standards for how you’re treated
different responses instead of old reactions
That’s how identity actually shifts. It happens quietly, repeatedly, and from the inside out.
You Choose Who You Are Every Day (Even When You Think You’re Not)
This part is confronting, but also freeing as hell.
Every day, you choose who you are. When you:
speak kindly to yourself or tear yourself down
stay silent or set a boundary
abandon yourself or back yourself
default to fear or choose responsibility for your life
You’re reinforcing an identity.
Most people don’t realise this, so they live on autopilot. They continue to recreate the same emotional reality for themselves, just in different ways.
But once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Identity isn’t something you find, it’s something you practice. And practice is what creates permanence.
Manifestation Is Simple (Not Easy, But Simple)
The internet has made manifestation feel like a fucking physics degree.
Do this ritual.
Say this affirmation 33 times.
Journal on the full moon.
Don’t think negative thoughts or you’ll “ruin it”
Honestly? Bullshit, exhausting and unnecessary.
Real manifestation (or at least, the kind I practice and teach) looks like this: you becoming the woman who:
expects life to work out
responds instead of reacts
doesn’t abandon herself when things feel uncomfortable
makes decisions from self-trust instead of fear
From that identity, the right actions become obvious, the right opportunities become visible and the right standards become non-negotiable. And the best part? This doesn’t happen because you’re sat there forcing it, it happens because you changed.
This Work Isn’t About Fixing You
I need to say this very clearly: there is nothing wrong with you exactly as you are, right now.
But if you know, deep down, that you’re capable of more ease, more alignment, and more fulfilment… that knowing isn’t random. It’s a call to become someone new. And it doesn’t have to happen overnight, or perfectly… it just needs to happen DELIBERATELY.
That’s the work I care about. That’s the work I teach. And that’s the work that actually creates positive, life-changing, long-lasting change.
If this is landing… if something in your body is quietly saying yes, this is it… then you’re already closer than you think. You can learn more about my story and how I changed my life using the methods I teach below
Because I promise you, living your dream life is entirely possible… and to get there, you don’t need to manifest harder, you just need to become different.
